You would think that after parenting five teenagers (one is still at home) that I have become an expert in the field–not really. Each one of them developed their own personality, aspired to different dreams, and looks at the world differently. Yep, you guessed it. They are all different!
Last week one of our elders at church spoke on the subject of parenting teenagers and I’d like to share them with you. They came to me as fresh reminders that I am not in charge–God is!
1. Remember how scared you were when you were a teen?
2. Remember you didn’t want to be around your parents?
3. Remember you tried on identities like you tried on clothes. As a parent, try to discern what they are “buying” into and not just what they trying on.
4. Remember that some of your learning came from making mistakes. Don’t be a “helicopter” parent, i.e. don’t hover over your kids. We want to keep them from regrets, not mistakes. Regrets are foolishness.
5. Remember the enticements of the world. It shouldn’t surprise us when the world seems enticing because all your teen has known is the church. I can relate to this as a homeschool parent!
6. Remember the weaknesses of your own parents. You don’t have to be a great parent but a faithful one. We don’t have all the answers.
7. Remember that the God who rescued you will be faithful to them. He will rescue them as well.